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Attachment and Trauma: How Early Wounds Shape the Way We Love as Adults There is a question that comes up, directly or indirectly, in nearly every therapy I conduct: why do I keep repeating the same patterns in my closest relationships? Why do I find myself attracted…

Depression and the Question of Meaning: Finding Your Way Back to a Life That Matters One of the quieter faces of depression is the one that looks, from the outside, like someone who has everything and is still not okay. High-functioning, professionally accomplished,…

The Art of Being Heard: What Good Communication Actually Requires in a Relationship Most couples who come to my office in Calabasas or Hidden Hills will tell me, somewhere in the first session, that their problem is communication. They are not wrong. But when we begin…